Family Therapy Podcast
Two cousins get together to discuss recent events & hot topics with insight from their generational differences and outlook on today's society & culture. Warren and Erica offer commentary on entertainment and music industry news. This podcast welcomes listeners a peak into their unique upbringing with hilarious stories and general life survival guides.
Family Therapy Podcast
Episode 4: Avoid Feeling Overwhelmed
Warren and Erica open up about how they have been feeling overwhelmed these past couple weeks, and each of them share techniques that they utilize to uplift their spirits when they are feeling overwhelmed.
Warren shares that the decision to stretch his muscles every morning right out of bed has drastically changed his life, and those types of small changes can have a dramatic positive result. Erica describes her first Pilates class, and vows to attend more classes and get back into the gym on a regular basis this summer.
Hey Erica, hey Warren, how's it going?
Speaker 2:Good, how are you?
Speaker 1:Good good.
Speaker 2:Good, I'm just coming off my my funk that I've been in for the past week. Really All week, last week, yeah, it was just, it was rough. It was rough Work was work was slow?
Speaker 1:Do you think because it was the holiday or what? What was there like a? Have you seen that in the past?
Speaker 2:or yeah, definitely, definitely. A definitely has to do with being at Easter. Easter week, I think. A lot of door dashers are out and about trying to make their money, also for the holiday, so it was just like oversaturated with drivers out there. So I was just a little overwhelmed Just working long hours trying to make normally what I would make in half the time. Does that make sense?
Speaker 1:Right yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, perfect, but yeah, it was a long week.
Speaker 1:I was pretty overwhelmed. I bet I mean that sounds overwhelming, especially when there's like a bunch of people you know just randomly Well, I don't know if it's randomly, it sounds kind of like it was randomly just maybe double the drivers or something, just because they had some time off and they're just trying to make extra cash or whatever the case may be Right.
Speaker 2:You know, with it being Easter, that I fell on a Sunday. I think the whole week prior just every driver was out there like trying to make some money for the weekend, you know for the holiday.
Speaker 2:And I was one of them and it was just so many of us out there that it was just oversaturated. There were so many drivers to tackle, so little deliveries. And there was less deliveries this time this week because people were eating at home. You know, with the beginning of the weekend and Easter again, you know, people are making food at home.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's crazy to me that it would be like that on Easter, I would think more so like around Thanksgiving, but mostly around Christmas time. It would be like crazy amount of people signing up to DoorDash to make that extra cash, you know. So, man that's overwhelming.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the holidays are pretty opposite. They're actually busier throughout Thanksgiving. You would think it would be slower, but it's actually a lot busier. I think there's a lot more deliveries happening Not food, but Walmart deliveries, or those kind of deliveries. Gamestop where you're delivering non-foods. Oh okay, a lot of those kind of deliveries. Gamestop where you're delivering, just like non-foods.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, yeah.
Speaker 2:A lot of those during the holidays.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, see, that makes sense. Yeah, oh, okay.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I was just on this funk. I know that we tried to record last week, but I was like I just can't do this right now. I'm not in the headspace to do this. I was just overworked. Overworked the other day I slept. Yesterday I slept. I slept from 3 PM all the way to 6 AM this morning. Oh my gosh, I slept all day, all night. Wow, I didn't mean to, but I did, and I had to. My body just needed it, because today, oh God, perfect.
Speaker 1:So you feel refreshed today, refreshed.
Speaker 2:Good, refreshed Work wasn't so stressful it was. Now that Easter is over, work has been back to normal. That's good. Back to $20 an hour, back to where I'm used to being.
Speaker 1:Oh good, that's really good I had a good day. Yeah, it's hard when you're in that mental state and you're just like frustrated and tired, and then you're not making money and it's just like what the fuck, man, you know Right? And then I feel like it makes you more tired or like I don't know, just exhausted.
Speaker 2:It does. It's like a snowball effect yeah the snowball effect. And it happens because I tend to neglect parts of my life like fitness or like going for walks or like any kind of physical activity, because I'm just always working always driving you know, and that plays a role in our mental health, in our health.
Speaker 1:Right Because you just kind of like shut down right.
Speaker 2:You shut down. Yeah, If you, yeah, if you're neglecting exercise. You're working a lot, you're being overworked, your mind just shuts down and you can't just bring it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you just can't function.
Speaker 2:Right, and the time for me to bring it was the other day with our podcast, and I just couldn't, just couldn't do it.
Speaker 1:we had to stop, yeah, mid yeah, that was, yeah, that was uh, it, it was overwhelming, um, and and I felt the same. You know I've I had a long week and, um, my long week was due to my colleague taking a vacation, you know, and we just got over tax season. So I mean that crunch of time and trying to everybody calling in, and you know, all this different things being thrown at me, it was, it was crazy, it was hectic, and then there's only two of us in in that area. So with her being gone, you know, it was just like double the work.
Speaker 2:For me double the work, double the workload yeah, double the work.
Speaker 1:And then not only that, but I have a family that I have to take care of as well. So it's like working, doing overtime, trying to break free from that. You know when my time is done. I just I don't know how to do that. You know I'm learning, but I just I'm not there yet. Maybe almost, but not not quite it's a work in progress yeah, it really is.
Speaker 1:And then coming home if the house is a mess, having to do that before I make dinner, because I can't cook in a messy kitchen, and then you know just. And then I was feeling even more frustrated because I had a long day.
Speaker 1:I came home, made dinner and nobody nobody was around nobody was around oh man so I'm sitting there and nobody ate the food I made and I was just like I was crushed. I was not only tired, um, feeling anxiety and just this overwhelmed feeling. And then for them to do that, uh, oh man, I was on my, I would have been mad too.
Speaker 2:I would have been a little upset yeah, you know, especially if they asked me, did they ask you to make dinner? Well or is it just you just came up and did it yourself, just because that's kind of like the, the moat that you're in now. Still like that moat yeah, that routine, yeah mom routine right right, so I just yeah, it was just yeah, so just the routine.
Speaker 1:Like I feel like when I get home from work that we need to sit as a family and eat dinner, because I still do believe that you know, like we're not going to sit on the couch, we're not going to sit in our rooms, we're going to sit at the dinner table and we're going to have dinner together as a family and we're not going to be on our phones because I do not allow phones at the table when we're going to have dinner together as a family and we're not going to be on our phones because I do not allow phones at the table when we're having dinner and, uh, just spend that time because life is so busy and hectic and I find peace in that, in that I just enjoy that time of my day because it just kind of like helps me, like, okay, you know unwind so, so, yeah, so, um, I was pretty upset about that and uh, but, but I'm over it now, so I feel I'm feeling better, um, and then the other night I just couldn't sleep because I was just I don't know.
Speaker 1:Know, it's been just ongoing for me and I finally got some rest last night too. So I think it just caught up to the both of us. You know just like okay, you guys need to slow down.
Speaker 2:Like something's in the air. Yeah, like you got to take a break.
Speaker 1:Right, relax, yeah, rest Exactly.
Speaker 2:Yes, recharge.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I'm feeling a lot better today too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, good, good. I think we, I think we forget about taking time to rest, rest our mind, rest our body, because it really takes a toll on us. We feel overworked and then we just crash out. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Exactly.
Speaker 2:It's yeah, it's no, it's nothing you want to experience At. It's yeah, it's no, it's nothing you want to experience at all. And I keep forgetting, I keep forgetting that advice. You know, I'm not trying to sound like I know, like here's the issue, here's the solution.
Speaker 2:You know, because I I do forget that most of the time I do overwork myself sometimes yeah and I justify it by just telling myself that I'll do it later, I'll go later, I'll go to the gym later, I'll go for that hike later. You know, I could just work now. Work for what you need now, and though it seems easiest to do that, it gets harder because you're neglecting parts of your health and you need that you know, you need to learn how to.
Speaker 1:when you're done, you're done. Like you know, your job is always going to be there for the most part, unless you know there's an unfortunate event, of course, but you know work's still going to be there in the morning. You know if you have a crazy boss, you know, thank goodness still going to be there in the morning. You know, if you have a crazy boss, you know, thank goodness you don't have you know that lingering over you.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, no, because that would make it more more harder to deal with.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly, and I am very, very fortunate to have the bosses that I do because they are very I'm very respected at, you know, my firm that I work for, and so it's nice because I get all my stuff done. I don't have anybody down my back, you know, or hey, this, this, this, you know sometimes it is does get hectic, but they know that I can function and I can do what is needed at, you know, at a high level. So it's nice that to have that, because at previous jobs man micromanaging or having those bosses with the ego or just craziness, it's toxic.
Speaker 2:It's toxic. I see it all the time. I see it all the time with leadership and how it's just abused and taken advantage of and it's a problem.
Speaker 1:Horrible.
Speaker 2:Problem. I see it all the time. I've dealt with it and it's just. I wish I could do something about it, but I can't. There's nothing you could. What can you do? Right what can you do in a situation like that?
Speaker 1:yeah, and I just don't understand how people are just so miserable where they want to make other people miserable. I'm like how the hell did you get into leadership? You've dealt with that so many times.
Speaker 2:But yeah, yeah, what were you saying?
Speaker 1:again. I'm sorry, no, it's okay. Just that you know that toxic environment, or just you know, oh yeah, yeah Toxic environment.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you don't want to work in that. You don't want to work in that, and that's why I don't work anywhere either, because I'd rather just do DoorDash, because I have no boss right because I know wherever I go, there's gonna be that egotistic boss and I just don't mix well with that.
Speaker 1:I don't mix well it makes it harder to work and it gives you uh.
Speaker 2:For me anyways, it gives me like anxiety it drains your energy it drains me bad because having to walk on eggshells around this person, or having to like be what, or present yourself in a certain way around them because you know they're gonna do you wrong somewhere down the road exactly because you see them doing wrong yeah, to everybody else yeah so.
Speaker 1:So I just can't.
Speaker 2:But you have good bosses, you have great bosses that are not like that Right. Like you said they're not very micromanaging.
Speaker 1:Right, you know they treat you as it should be. You're an adult, get things done.
Speaker 2:We hire you for responsibility, right, just do your part, do your job. Yeah, we hire you for responsibility, right, just do your part Do your job.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's it, and nobody's down your back. And we're good, yeah, we're all good.
Speaker 2:And we're colorful, yeah, perfect.
Speaker 1:So that's why I love where I work. Because of that the atmosphere is amazing and I just stick to myself. I go in, do what I need to and that's it and I'm done, I mean. But sometimes the stress level is high and I do feel like I'm overwhelmed, especially because I'm in a position where I have to resolve problems or find a solution, and it's a lot of research. So I'm constantly researching and trying to get things done. But then, as I'm doing that, I also get hit with all kinds of different things, and so it gets overwhelming at times, but it's manageable. I think I have a bigger problem in my personal life dealing with you know, feeling overwhelmed because I just do. I don't know. I'm still learning how to just kind of step back.
Speaker 2:You have to tame all of this.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 1:How to just settle it all down, kind of take control, grab these ropes and just settle them down exactly yeah, because I um don't want to get crazy, yes, crazy, and pop off exactly, especially to my kids, like I don't want to come home in a bad mood or, you know, because I'm feeling this type of way go off on the people I love, because I've. I have done that before and just after I say what I say because I have no filter. You know, I hurt feelings and that's not fun either, because then it makes me feel like crap and then it makes me, you know, feel some other way.
Speaker 1:So here I am full of all these different emotions and I'm like come on, erica, you know, get it together. But that is something that I'm learning, because as I grew up, I had to learn a lot of things on my own and it's just, I don't know, it's just different.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we don't stop learning. We don't stop learning. This is all new, you know. Life is just, it just keeps going right you know like you can.
Speaker 1:Maybe you'll never learn, but maybe just having to just deal with it and just go, go along and just not give up, that's something too right, you know what I'm saying like you might never learn how to deal with all of this, but as long as you're just working at it and getting through it persistently, I think that's important too yeah, I'm saying so like, yeah, you know, it's just and just I, I think you know, finding different ways to manage when you're feeling overworked, overwhelmed, and just, uh, finding that balance right, because I don't feel like there's going to be a time where, well, I mean there will be a time where it's like you don't feel overwhelmed, but then it's like these cycles, right, you know, you're like up and then you're down, and you're here and you're there and just when that next overwhelming feeling comes, learning how to react or cope differently is important Because you again, like you mentioned before, your health is important.
Speaker 1:If you have a routine, don't let that overtake that emotion. You have to keep showing up for yourself, whatever makes you happy, and keeping your mind sharp and keeping your health, you know, in line yep especially as you age.
Speaker 1:You know that's very important and I always tell my kids know, take care of yourself now so you can feel better in the future. Yeah. You know, because health is wealth.
Speaker 2:Yeah, health truly is wealth. It really is, it really is. So how would you, how do you overcome feeling overwhelmed, like what are some techniques that you've tried or that you do that get you through all this? Do you like take time to yourself, like a five minute breather, or do you give yourself a mantra? Do you like tell yourself, or do you look in the mirror? Or how do you deal with all of this, like with work, having to solve situations at work and then having to come home and, you know, deal with the family and then all the other stuff? I mean, I think you mentioned that it kind of bleeds into your social life, to like your personal life, all the stress. How do you like?
Speaker 1:how do I manage? Yeah, how do you manage like?
Speaker 2:what do you do? Like, what are your techniques? Like, how would you tell your listeners to do with being overwhelmed in the way you are?
Speaker 1:How I deal.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So the way I deal is I usually like when I have a million things that need to be done, I feel like it's a million, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And sometimes I do, and so I just write a list of things that I need to get done and as I go I prioritize, of course, like okay, this needs to get done in order, and then I just start checking out off my list, right. And then it's funny because there's other times that I feel like I have a million things to do and I go to write my list and it's like just a few things and I'm like I feel like my mind is just so conditioned to feel like I'm overwhelmed when I'm really not really not it's like a habit, a subconscious habit that your mind had picked up.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And thinks that it should treat everything that way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so it's important for me to write things down because it's like, okay, is this in my head or is this really, you know, and I really have a million things to do. So just that makes me feel better, it makes me feel less overwhelmed, because it's like, okay, I'm getting things done, and sometimes I don't get to everything, but I get to the most important, where I can kind of just like, have whatever goal rolling into the next day, but I don't let it roll more than the next day, because then I feel like I'm not getting things done. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2:Yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 1:Yeah and um, clearly yeah. And so within that time I'm also, you know, making sure my breathing is good. Um, if I need to step away from my computer, I'll just get up grab some water, you, you know. Or go for a little walk around my room downstairs, go say hi to the dogs, you know, just kind of take a little five minute break, reset and uh, just go back to it and uh it. It tends to make myself like feel like okay, this is the work. Good, you know, and I also talk to myself, you know. Yeah, especially when I'm having that internal like oh man, um, just talk to myself and you know, everything's all right, we're gonna get it done. Um, you know, just things like that meditation. So it really does help me come back down yeah, help you get.
Speaker 2:You get back organized course correct and just tackle everything that you need to get tackled right exactly, yeah, making a list definitely helps a lot, a lot, a lot. I think writing anything down helps a lot. Writing your ideas down, making a list of things to do. I think that's a a a practice that nobody does anymore. Writing things down, keeping journals with a pen and paper not on your phone, not on your notepad exactly with a pen and paper.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, uh. Make a list of your priorities, what has to get done now rather than later. Maybe maybe put a date next to those priorities, like when, like the, like a due date or like a deadline yeah yeah, prioritize it like that. Uh, talking to yourself also, I think, helps me when I'm overwhelmed. Just simple, like you know, like what, like okay, warren, calm down, this is going to pass, don't worry about it. You know it's going to pass, don't worry.
Speaker 1:Right, it's temporary.
Speaker 2:And that really helps. And I find that I only talk to myself sometimes. I should do it more, but only sometimes, when I'm really like really needed, when I'm like about to, when I'm like about to like pop off also like another driver or something you know, like when I'm really angry or really feeling it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:That's when I got to be like okay, Warren, you just got to chill out. No, you don't want to go to jail. Yeah, I don't want to get shot. You don't want to, you don't want anything. This is not worth it, Exactly. So, yeah, that helps a lot. Words are powerful.
Speaker 1:They really are. Yeah, especially when you know it's important, when you, in your case, is just feeling like overworked, you know, just to you know, take that step back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, to say it aloud, to say words aloud, it helps.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it helps.
Speaker 2:It takes you out of your internal thoughts, your internal like self, to just talk you know, just talk to yourself, calm yourself down, but uh, yeah, that really helps me when I feel overwhelmed. Making a list, prioritizing talking to yourself, I think that's it's important that's what I would bring. Yeah, it's very important, very, very yeah you ready for a break?
Speaker 2:yes, it's like a break. It's like a break, um, yeah, it's like a break. Ready for a break? Yeah, let's go, I'm ready for a break, okay, so yeah. So I gotta say, erica, so far, since what we've, what we've recorded with this podcast, I think you, you got a real voice for this, really like, yeah, I think I think you're doing really good at this thank you, I appreciate yeah, a lot better than I am for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah yeah, I, I sound like a, like a derp no, straight up that's why I'd rather be on the behind the scenes on the buttons, rather than being a talent but this is you coming out of your comfort zone it really is and that's kind of like what I want to bring. I mean, what I want to use this podcast for is to help me with my public speaking and just coming out of my shell, just bringing Warren out, bringing Warren out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you're also doing a good job at that, because it's like you know.
Speaker 2:I hope so.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I hope so.
Speaker 2:We'll see, we'll see.
Speaker 1:And we're going to pull different parts out of ourselves and get out of that comfort zone.
Speaker 2:So we're doing our best comfort zone so for sure we're doing our best. You know, yeah, we're doing our best, but thank you, I appreciate that, no problem. Yeah, um, I gotta talk to you about I've been like slacking big time on my fitness and my gym time and just my general like outdoor time lately. I just so I've been so busy and just with work yeah yeah, I gotta get back into it. I gotta get back into it so what is your routine like?
Speaker 1:let's say, you know work is going well, um, you're feeling good or however you're feeling. How do you incorporate the gym into your day like? What does your day look like?
Speaker 2:on a good day on a good week when I'm on it, when I'm persistent, when I'm on it. Um, I would normally go to the gym in the morning Okay, in the morning when there's not so many people there, mm-hmm and just start my day there. That's assuming that I got a good night's rest, went to bed on time the previous day, but that's.
Speaker 1:That's how you're, that's how I would go. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Usually in the morning or in the afternoon.
Speaker 1:Do you find it more effective usually in the morning or in the afternoon? Do you find it more effective going in the morning like do you feel like that sets your mood for the day?
Speaker 2:it really does, because I walk out of there like I'm ready to work, I'm ready to put in some hours, I'm ready to make some money yeah that's how I get out like feeling motivated, feeling good yeah, that's good. Yeah, self-discipline right there yeah, but like I said, I'm I'm off it. I've been off it for a while, for like a month and a half maybe, oh goodness bad, yeah, bad, uh.
Speaker 2:And normally I would like stretch in the morning, like when I get up in the morning. I've gone to the habit of stretching which I started like, I think like in 2019, I remember starting like I'm gonna. I told myself I made the decision, I'm going to stretch in the morning, like when I get up in the morning, I'm going to do like a sun salutation, a forward bend, you know, do some nice lunges.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Right, just touch the floor, you know, get a good stretch going. And that drastically, that decision changed my life Like a lot. Yeah, just get getting that habit going was all I needed and I kind of kick-started me. It's like more into fitness and just, uh, getting me back into like just being active. Because I was very active when I was younger Well, not younger, but I used to be a Zoomer instructor and I used to be an insanity instructor and I had classes all the time and I had to pull us off. But when I moved to Arizona I just fell off that habit Like you just fell off, just stopped.
Speaker 1:You know it's crazy because I did the same thing.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Exact same thing. When you moved here, when I moved here, yeah, because I I wasn't really I wasn't a Zumba instructor or what would you. What would you say? Because we would do sometimes the classes together. I never did, did the insanity but, the Zumba.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we're very into fitness at that time in our lives. And then after that I started working out consistently and going to the gym and it was great. And then I moved to Arizona and just trying to get situated and this and that it pulled me from the gym and I've gone a few times but I haven't been consistent like I should.
Speaker 1:So I know the feeling that you're feeling because it makes you feel like, especially like, even with stretching. I would do the same thing at night I would stretch or foam roll and then in the morning same thing wake up, stretch, because, oh my gosh, it makes you feel amazing it sets up your day yeah, it really does just stretch, it really does and going to the gym too. You know, that really does set the mood for me as well, because I feel like I can conquer the world.
Speaker 2:You know, that's maybe a little bit well, that's the feeling that you want to have when you leave the gym. That's the feeling you want to have. Why not? Why not?
Speaker 1:yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm sure there's other people that feel that way too, when they walk out of the gym yeah, and that's a really good feeling, so they walk around the gym like they can conquer the world. Yeah, so I'm. Yeah, it's fine, you're good.
Speaker 1:Sorry, go ahead no, that's, that's what I was. Yeah, that is true. I'm like, oh my goodness, but I actually I've gone to the gym, like I said a couple of times, but I want to try Pilates. I feel like if I were to get into like a class, it'll recondition my body or help me set my body back up to get back into the gym. Because when I go to the gym now, I just feel so different, and I mean, in my 30s I felt amazing, you know. And now that I'm in my early 40s, my body's changing and I'm just like oh man, you know, I want to lift like I used to, but my body's like no, you don't, you know.
Speaker 2:So I feel like that way now yes but it's possible for you to get back into that routine.
Speaker 1:Is that routine? Okay, so you can lift.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think so. I think it's safe to say that, because you see people like lifting and they're like of all, 50 or 60. Yes you know, I mean if you want to get there, I mean if you wanted to get there, back there you can so it sounds like I'm making excuses for the gym we all make excuses. That's the number one reason. The gym, yeah, we all make excuses. We all, we all do yeah don't even say you don't make excuses. Yeah, you make an excuse yeah not you, but all listeners everybody, everybody you listening right now in the car?
Speaker 1:yes you make an excuse, but I was thinking yeah, yeah, guilty, guilty I'm guilty too. I'm I'm proud, but um I did take a Pilates class like a couple weeks ago oh yeah.
Speaker 2:So what is Pilates? Tell me that, because I want to do hot yoga, but tell me how. How Pilates is different, how, what is? Yeah, what's? What's the difference between?
Speaker 1:okay. So, um, my first experience at pilates. I go and it's like a, like a machine that they have in in the room.
Speaker 2:So oh, it's an equipment, it's like an equipment piece of equipment.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's kind of like a bench in a sense kind of, but it's like it looks like more like in a box, I don't know, and all my pilates, um, girlies out there and guys, um, if I'm just explaining this wrong, you know, I'm sorry. Okay, I'll explain it better as I go, um, as I learn more about pilates. But my first experience, um, it's basically you're just doing your weight, your own body weight, but oh my goodness, it's such a great workout and you have a trainer there telling you what to do, so you're stretching things and places where you're like, oh my gosh, you know, like, oh yeah, yeah, like but it feels so good and, uh, you, just your body feels amazing, like.
Speaker 1:So imagine if I would just continue to do that. I feel like I would condition my body back, get stronger, and then I can get back into the gym and and do like, not crazy heavy lifting, but a manageable weight where I can strengthen myself and feel toned yeah, or be toned. I mean, I'm already toned, but just feel good.
Speaker 2:I don't want to feel lazy, I don't want to feel like you know, especially when you're aging, you don't want to go that route because you'll just age into that more. You don't want to get your muscles now that way, when you're 80 years old, in this shower and you slip a little bit, you don't fall over and break your hip exactly you'll have muscles in your leg to catch your balance and keep you safe, so it's very important it really is I tell my, tell my mom too, like you need to like get in there.
Speaker 2:You know, like you need to get those squats going, because that's, you know, when you get older.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I said, it helps you stay balanced. It does and it scares me because Nana like her health, you know, when at some point in her life she just her legs were, she really couldn't walk anymore, and she was young.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I do. I tell my mom the same thing. Like mom, you need to walk, you need to exercise a little bit. I'm not saying to go, you know, into the gym and be a big old bodybuilder.
Speaker 2:Right, walk around like you can walk in the world. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, go for walks, strengthen yourself, strengthen your legs, like because I don't know if that's genetic and that was scary, because I have like leg pain and I'm like, okay, well, is it because of my nana? You know, is that an inherited thing? And I don't want to get to that age where it's like she's in her 60s and she can't move.
Speaker 1:And that's sad and I'm like, no, I'm not going to do that, so I need to get back into the gym or Pilates or do some type of fitness so I can just… Don't find yourself in that situation where you.
Speaker 2:You're young, but you've chosen to baby your injuries instead of working them out and exercising them so that so they don't become something more more yeah, and harder to deal with when you're older yeah, like a bad knee yeah you know, like some people they baby their bad knee so bad right. They end up accepting it as like uh, can't be fixed right so they just go with that for the rest of your life. I can't walk. I can't walk here.
Speaker 1:I can't go there, my my knee, my knee, my knee, my knee, or knee, it's like no, you chose not to work on that and you know what's crazy most of the time. Yeah, I. That reminds me the other day, because I tried doing squats and my knees same thing. I was like, oh my gosh, I can't know, my knees are gonna give out. Like am I gonna drop these weights?
Speaker 2:I'm in the same situation too. My knees are hurting now. Yeah, that's it. I'm at that age now where my knees are like hurting hurting, but they just ache a little bit, especially like walking. Yeah and I know why. And I know I know why, because I'm letting the, letting the gym slack right what am I gonna do about it? Hopefully get back into the gym yes, that's my choice that's my choice for my legs.
Speaker 2:Otherwise, by this time next month I'll be worse right or sooner or later, whatever, but you know yeah, because that's that's what I've seen.
Speaker 1:So back to. I seen a video the other day and it's like okay, your knee pain is just because you're not using your muscles anymore. Your legs are getting, you know, weaker.
Speaker 2:So to overcome that.
Speaker 1:You need to get back into the gym. Or you know you need to exercise and do squats. Back into the gym, or you know you need to exercise and do squats. You don't have to put a million weights on it, but at least do the bar get the motion or go over there and do it show up right and do it and restrengthen yourself, so that's so.
Speaker 1:I was like, oh okay, so that was like some motivation for me. Um, and I was actually supposed to go to the gym today, but I'm like uh you know, so was I.
Speaker 2:I had it planned, I had the gym bag packed to go, but I didn't go.
Speaker 1:Right. So getting my goal is to just get back on a routine in my busy life and you know either I'm going to wake up early and go, because I used to go at like 4 o'clock in the morning Like I was just a gym.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're on those highs for a bit, where you're getting up on time. Yes, and then you just go back down a little bit and then you wake up it was moving.
Speaker 1:I just feel like it was just all the craziness where I'm just like I don't have time. But now that life is, it's busy, it's hectic, but it's not what it used to be, you know. So, finding that time, I'm definitely going to get back into it. I'm actually I've decided I'm going to do Pilates first and then condition back into the gym. I'm going to probably do it for like a month or two and then I also want to do yoga. So the difference between sorry I went off track, but so Pilates is more like on a machine type base, like body weight, yoga is more, I feel, like it's more stretching.
Speaker 2:Just more yoga.
Speaker 1:More yoga, yeah, like poses and just kind of. You know that type of emotion, rather than you know the.
Speaker 2:It's just I feel like it's a different type of stretching yeah, I never knew what pilates was. When I heard about it I knew it was like body weight stuff, but I never like seen it done or like seen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you'll have to watch like a video or something, because it's very it's I and I don't know if it's fair to say it's similar, because it's like stretching, it's like body workout, because you're doing like the whole, like the bands, and you know yeah, I think yoga is more like stretch based right, you know, like working on the mobility and like flexibility and stuff flexibility yes, yeah, that's stretching the muscles exactly more like more of like a conditioning workout, I guess I don't know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I do want to try that. Well, I'll try. But get back into that again yoga's nice hot yoga yeah work on my breathing, because my breathing sucks too bad, like I just I don't know why it just. Yeah, a lot of stress, yeah, but definitely I want to go for hikes work on my knees, work on my legs, get back into it. I got to do it yeah, and you'll get there but it won't matter unless I do it. So I could say it now, but yeah, everyone get there there's.
Speaker 1:Is there a lot of hiking places here?
Speaker 2:oh yeah all over arizona, everywhere you can throw a rock and and it'll land on a trail. Oh wow, and you just start there.
Speaker 1:Well, I did that one in Tempe. Have you seen that one right there? It's like really steep. I don't know it's right by Tempe, the beach or whatever. I'm still learning Arizona and where I'm at.
Speaker 2:But guys, I only beach or whatever. I'm still learning arizona and where I'm at.
Speaker 1:But, guys, I only know my little area. I don't know there's so many trails but this one is like in downtown tempe. I would want to say it's right by the lake but, um, it's very steep and it looks easy. But when you're walking up, oh my goodness, and it's not very long. It's not very long hike, but it's so good because it's like you're going up and you're like really working out.
Speaker 2:Right, it's like it's steep. So it's like it's a short distance, but it's steep enough for you to get like a good workout on your legs.
Speaker 1:And it's nice when you get to the top because it's like the airplanes are flying over and they're just like so close and it's cool, and then you can see all of the different places, like Scottsdale, and you know all these different places Scottsdale, tempe, mesa, phoenix, right. Yeah, so it's really nice. So you should try that one of these days, if just you're driving down in that area.
Speaker 2:I have to, I have to Like you, I have to, I have to. You can't live in Arizona and not go hike somewhere. Right, that's all there is to do here sometimes is just go hike. Yeah, and that's fun. It's not a bad thing. I like it, it's good, I like hiking. Good, perfect.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but on the way down of the hike it's because the incline is kind of intense coming down it does put a lot on your knees, so it's really good to stretch before you do that little hike.
Speaker 2:Yeah, good to stretch before any workout.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is. I was in a really bad car accident about nine years ago and I tore my hamstring.
Speaker 1:Ouch and I tore my hamstring, ouch, and it it's funny because it's like nine years later, depending on the movement, I still feel it. And when I was doing that Pilates class I was like whoa, like this, I'm not going to be able to do this move. But I pushed through and I did it and that's important too, because it's like my hamstring's so tight from not doing you know, what it should, you know working out, stretching, so, um, I really need to get that going again because it hurts and hamstring is like a big muscle and, uh, it the the positive side of that.
Speaker 1:It looks like I work out my hamstring because it's like bulged out. You know, my left side is bulged out. My right side is a little flat, but yeah, I have some really nice hamstrings, so that's the positive.
Speaker 2:You heard it here first. You heard it here in the podcast. It's official.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but yeah, that's about it. With my workout, I also want to get back into deep meditation for my mind, because I want to make sure that my body connection is going and flowing you want to make sure your mind's right, right, you know, because your mind is a garden.
Speaker 2:Your mind is sacred. That's what. That's what makes us see the world you know right, it does yeah mine's big. But yeah, I think, uh, yeah, just take. You know, just take it slow with that hamstring, you know, just take it easy. Just definitely don't give up because your hamstringstring.
Speaker 1:And the knees. Find a way to make it work, yeah.
Speaker 2:Find a way to make it work.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yoga would be good for that too. I think Stretching so. For sure. But just finding that time. And well, not finding the time, because there's always time there's always time, but just For your health. Managing, I guess I should say Prioritizing your time exactly.
Speaker 2:Get it done. Get it done because you will feel overwhelmed and you will pop off yes, yes, and this will help you. Let feel less overwhelmed yes, yep, that's, that's our, that's our moral for today yes prioritize your health yes prioritize your time because if not, yeah, it'll just, it'll just make. Prioritize your health yes, prioritize your time, because, if not, yeah.
Speaker 1:It'll just make everything else feel better, you know, and you'll just feel better overall, yeah.
Speaker 2:And you know we're not perfect. We forget this advice, we tend to forget it right away, and I do find myself still getting overwhelmed, overworked. But I know what to do, just gotta get it done yes, and you got this. You will get it done yes, I'll definitely go to the gym real soon, real soon, okay, all right, erica, I'll see you next week we'll see you next week thank you for listening to family therapy.
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